My finace and I were supposed to get married on Halloween of this year but we both lost our jobs 2 months before so due to the fact of a financial reason we postponed it. Last night he picked a fight with me and told me to give him his ring back that he never wanted to marry me and has been feeling this way for 5 months but did not know how to tell me and did not want to hurt me. Says he still loves me and wants to be with me but does not want the pressure of being engaged. Just had me renew our lease and spend money on his family for Christmas and then pulls this. Everything is in MY name too so even with the 2 jobs I have now...I cant pay for it all myself. It hurts to think I have been used this whole time and to be honest...I dont know if I will ever be able to trust him again.

My fiance, a Scottish lady that I met in Edinburgh, of a couple of months broke off the engagement. It was very painful. She complained a lot about my children, who she knew were going to live with me. Then she was very impatient about finding somewhere to live together -- even before we were married. Her business got in a lot of trouble and she had to move offices to home, this was stressful for her, and she claims I wasn't there for her, even though I did support her emotionally. Then she gave me ultimatiums -- said I had to "move fast or else", and pay for everything "offer FULL SUPPORT or else" -- meaning for her, her two kids, my two kids and I -- basically said if I couldn't afford her and her kids, forget it. All kind of conditions. She started complaining about everthing, called me lazy (first time in my life), said nothing I did was satisfactory for her. I saw she was all about money, and this mattered even though before she said it didn't. She was VERY high maintenance as it turned out. Then she started cheating -- at least emotionally -- on me with x-boyfriends, having dinner, dating them, especially this one older guy she said was "very old" but paid a lot of attention to her. Then she turned around and said I was controlling -- OK i did get insecure and jealous over this. Then she stopped wearing the ring, especiall y on days when she saw him. Supposedly it was about business. But she got upset when I asked her why she wasn't wearing the ring anymore. It was really tough for we had a loving, passionate relationship with great sex the 8 months before. Tough ending, she was really nasty and critical to me, although coulnd't take any criticism herself, and ran away when I tried to talk to her. It was really sad. I had to ask her a few times for the ring back. At first she said she lost it, then finally gave it back. Along the way she tryed manipulating me, making me trying to explain certain things to her, just the way she wanted to hear them, or she wouldn't talk to me. In retrospect, I should have done more research on her. She had a lot of baggage, a lot of anger inside I didn't see. Also, I learned a lot about myself. New rules -- no (serious) dating uptight businesswomen who want control, no women my age -- must be younger, and no one with children -- too complicated. Sad, sad time for me.

My fiance just broke our engagement... we are in the home that we recently purchased together still and i love her more than ever... i am not sure if this is cold feet or if i have really done too much over the 7 years we have been together. It hurts to think that through all the growth together she is not fullfilled by me... I do not know how to react right now because she is still with me and we did not have a date set... the feeling of her withdrawing from me just eats me alive... what now... i am heart broken..