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dealing with
bridezilla
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GroomGroove.com has the answers for you. (It’s going to be okay.) How Do You Know She's...Transformed? How can a groom cope? 2. Grooms aren't guilty unless…they are. If you are upholding your end of the bargain, you have absolutely nothing to feel sorry for. Even so, this may not prevent your future wife from becoming Bridezilla. If she succumbs, remind her that you’re doing all you can and that if she is taking on tasks above and beyond what was agreed upon, that is her own choosing. However, if you’re skipping out on things you agreed to help with to have a drink with friends or catch the game on TV, sorry brother but...you're guilty as charged. In this case, your Bridezilla is justified in being a monster. Rectify the situation as quickly as you can. Be extra, extra nice. article continues...[Page 1 of 3]
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To John...a little word of advice, dont marry this chick if she's telling you that you need to find th moeny for this...its just a big party. I'm sure I'm going to get alot of flack for this, but in the end, the relationship matters more. If you and she can't have a conversation about the finances of planning a party, you never will be able to have a life together!
Future Bridezilla
At this point everyone in my family knows my personality and how I feel about my wedding day when it comes. My sister and I joke regularly that right now I'm a Bridezilla in training so we've set a plan in motion already (and I'm not even engaged yet.) Weddings are about two people joining together in marriage. I won't lie and say that the wedding doesn't matter but it does. I've decided that the key to avoid becoming Bridezilla is surrounding myself with people to remind me that the wedding is about my fiance, not just about me. That way, every choice has to be agreed on by both of us. I think it is really wrong for brides to push their fiance out of the planning process entirely and it's wrong for grooms to not care at all. Granted guys you may not care if the tablecloths are white, off-white, brite white, soft white, winter white, ecru, ivory, or eggshell ... but there are other things that you can do. Help pick out the tuxes that you guys will where, help pick the colors, or have a family member read a Bible verse. Trust me, even if you don't help her agonize over every single little detail, any bride worth her salt just wants to know that you care about the special day as much as she does. I think Bridezillas happen when they feel they have to do everything all on their own or it won't get done.
Bridezilla
Thanks for the description of a bridezilla. I officially self-diagnosed myself after reading this. I feel terrible for treating my fiance the way I have this past few months of wedding planning. At least I have 3 more months to redeem myself.
Wife speaking
I was convinced I wasn't being a bridezilla. Now three years later, and several friend's wedding later, I'm fully aware that I was in a trance when planning my wedding. I was so focused on "PERFECT" that I couldn't even manage to understand that it was OKAY if we ended up in someone's backyard drinking out of a keg. All the details just don't matter...
Long story short, I'm back to myself and realize how weird I was being. Trust me guys, your fiance's & wives will relax during the honeymoon and all will be right again!
john
You can never know what its like to deal with bridezilla till you are the groom.
I have become one of the many groom to be that has fallen over this.She is so obsessed with the wedding that she initally gave aa amazing bill to me which was totally unpayable.She then cut a few things and still its exremely high and refuses to work on a reasonable bill and now has declared "its all about the bride and i must find the money somehow".
Like many who have encountered this i am thinking of calling it quits because i have a strange feeling this will continue after the wedding!
Sebastian
I can't really cope with bridezilla much anymore. I went back on my anti-anxiety pills and asked my doctor to put me on Xanax or an equivalent option (I pick those up today, YAY!). She has gotten really mean and doesn't really talk or listen anymore. I am starting to get scared. I meanwhile have lost an additional 15 lbs and I am happy in that respect! I get compliements! Oh well, I might just start drinking. I hope she goes back to a kind and loving girl again after the wedding if not then I will be in for a VERY Unhappy life.
Bridzilla is determinded to make all the details of the wedding unbearable, but I will perserver!
True, sadly..
Every woman has had this happen at some point or other ( wheather they will admit to it is another thing entirely..). Thank god for my fiance, who's probably used at least 3 of these tactics to keep my feet on the ground. Trust me, they work. And yes, she'll go back to normal once it's all done.
The thing that really gets a bride going is feeling like she's the only one who cares about the little details. A gentle reminder that all you really need to get married is a ring and a minister and that the rest is just extra should calm her down. And really, if she can't be talked off a parry favor ledge, think long and hard about marrying her...clearly her priorities are screwed up if she's focused on ribbon and bows and not the union. It's about the marriage NOT the wedding!1
So true!
Wow! I thought I was the only one who ever experienced this!
Gotta keep the eye on the prize and remember why we asked them to marry us in the first place. Sometimes taking a break from the wedding and each other for a week can help.
Yikes
Yeah, Bridezilla is no joke. It's tough to deal with and makes you wonder why you're marrying the person... but I'm hoping that normalcy returns after the big day...
Am I right to hope? Anyone?
it is very real
And Bridezilla is one thing but dealing with her mother is another.
YoursTruly
Another way to deal with Bridezilla is to NOT MARRY HER. Just kidding...great article though.
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