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[Page 1 of 3] Subtle and quiet over dinner? With an airplane flight over a farmer's field? No matter how you do it, the manner in which you ask your girlfriend to marry you is a big step. GroomGroove.com covers some suggestions on how to pop the question.
Given its importance, the prospective groom will want to take some time to think about how to make the wedding proposal memorable. This means that a smart groom will carefully plan what he is going to do and avoid any impulses to spontaneously propose to his girlfriend. Know the Answer in Advance While it isn't the focus of this article, you should read GroomGroove.com's article on whether you, the groom, are *really* ready to get married. This will help you to determine your level of compatibility with your girlfriend and whether you have the basis for long-term commitment. By having "The Conversation" in advance of the proposal itself, you'll have a very clear idea on whether the answer will be yes or no. Only a fool (or a character in a bad Hollywood movie) pops the question without having a sense of whether the other person truly loves them back and will say yes. The element of surprise you are looking for here is: "Oh my God, I had no idea today was the day! How creative was it for you to mow "Will You Marry me" in our lawn!" and NOT "Oh my God, I had no idea he thought we were that serious!" Got it? Big Bang or Something Subtle? When you are planning
the act, you should take some time to think
about your partner's personality. Is she an
extrovert or an introvert? Without getting too
deep into psychological analysis, you need to
determine whether your girlfriend would appreciate
a huge, potentially very public display of affection
or would she rather have an intimate moment alone
with you. That being said, it is up to you. If you are
confident that the outcome will be positive,
put as much creativity into the proposal as
you feel comfortable. Regardless of the tone
of the proposal or the amount of creativity
involved, however, you do not want your proposal
to be overly complicated, unless you are prepared
for things to go wrong. [Page 1 of 3]
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RH - we haven't come across any marriage proposal stories from Greece in our marriage proposal story archive. See the link at the bottom of the page. But there are a ton of other travel or exotic marriage proposal stories there.
RH
any suggestion about proposals on greece?? Mythology.. temples.. etc
Rober
It should certainly stand out...I asked my girlfriend to marry me on top of the Zugspitze, the highest mountain in Germany. I couldn't believe how nervous I was at the time, or perhaps it was due to the freezing temp.
James
The way you pop the question should reflect your personality. I made plans in advance, not at a fancy place to eat with all kinds of special effects but instead I (with help from her father) built a heart-shaped box with a lock on it and put the ring inside in a velvet bag. Planning the day was no biggie, I just figured on asking after midnight mass on Christmas Eve. Simple but memorable event and now she has box made out of oak and stained a rich cabernet color to treasure forever.
Andy
My bride to be is an American and she was flying in to the UK on July the 4th, perfect date for an anglo-American engagement. I planned it all. I had rung the hotel we were staying at and arranged for rose petals and champagne to be put on the bed while we were out. I had booked the club (seriously, well it was the Ice Bar) we went to the night we got together, and then planned t propose on one knee in the park we walked in afterwards where we discovered we were together (a long story).
Well her flight got put back a day thank you suspected terrorists at Heathrow, so I had to ring the hotel in a panic and rearrange and rebook the room and call the ice bar and get a new reservation, thankfully they had one. But then on the day she arrived it poured down with rain.
However the hotel had given us the honeymoon suite at no extra. I proposed in the ice bar instead, where she said yes making it the best night ever, and when we got back to the hotel (after getting quite damp) they had put out the petals and the champagne which rendered my new fiancee speechless and unable to move. That reaction with the yes were simply fantastic. So yes things can go wrong, but they can easily be fixed, and as long as there is a yes then it don't matter what went wrong
Dave
I proposed on a tour of Fenway Park. It was quite cheesy, but she is a huge Red Sox fan so it had some sentimental value. She cried instantly and forgot to say anything... after saying yes she cried for 30 mins more. I started to think that she was upset at my choice of location, but she convinced me that she was so surprised. I had not planned on the proposal being so public, but it turned out that 100+ people were on the tour.
DW
The best advice I can give is to think about how you think SHE would like the proposal to be - not you. If she's an introvert don't give her the big embarrassing public proposal because you like that idea. Give her what she wants, you're going to have to get used to doing that anyway, might as well start now!
JON
I actually did this on Christmas Eve. It was very simple. Friends and family were over for a late late breakfast and I popped it then. Her response was uh-huh. Not yes, but uh huh. That was nerve wrecking. But now its over.
Kareem
scariest day of my life!
Andrew
DOH! Jason that sucks - but at least you pulled it off in the end. I know one guy who hid the diamond ring in a park, in the mud where they went running. Guess what happened. THAT's even worse.
Jason
I agree with Brett. simpler the better. I tried a very elaborate plan involving a spotlight, the local pool where we first met, and a whole host of other things. on the day the event was supposed to happen it all fell apart, literally. the pool pipes broke and flooded the basement and a gas main broke. I still at the last minute booked a nice restraunt, and got them to put the ring in some tieramisu, but all my best laid plans were laid to ruin.
Brett
Simpler the better!
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