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How much should a groom spend on an engagement ring? [Page 1 of 2]

Grooms who are ready to ask for a woman's hand in marriage will inevitably attempt to figure out how much money they should spend on an engagement ring (diamond ring or otherwise). Guys have all heard (probably in passing) the idea that the diamond engagement ring should cost two months' salary. GroomGroove.com says spend what you can.

What grooms are buying

At the outset, grooms should know that any indicators of how much an engagement ring should cost refer to the diamond and the setting (ie. the entire engagement ring) and not just the rock itself. That is at least some form of consolation.

Where did the two months of salary idea come from?

The origin of the two months' salary begins with DeBeers, the largest diamond producer and marketer in the world. In 1947, in an effort to increase diamond sales in the United States following a depressed wartime market, DeBeers launched a marketing campaign with a New York advertising firm. A copywriter penned the famous slogan "A diamond is forever". As far as advertising slogans go, it's pretty damn good. A diamond, like your marriage, is supposed to last forever. (ed. - We're thankful wedding preparation doesn't last nearly as long.)

From our research, GroomGroove.com understands that DeBeers wanted to bring diamonds to the masses, rather than have them be for a select few. Accordingly, the price of diamonds was set at approximately two months of salary, which is somewhat tied to inflation.

Diamonds, just like your marriage, are an investment, and have been an investment device for several thousand years. Hard, durable and used to mine for other minerals, diamonds are generally quite rare (although they are not the rarest of gemstones). This, coupled with cartelization by the producers and resellers, keeps diamond prices very high. As a result, it will cost a groom at least $1000 to purchase a diamond of decent cut, clarity, color and carat. Of course, a $1000 diamond engagement ring will likely be lacking in two or three of the four C's. Accordingly, a groom is likely to spend at least $2,500 on his bride's engagement ring.

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Engaged chick
Wed, Dec.3rd 2008
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Fortunately (hopefully) you're partner won't be marrying you for your money, and will recognise that your thoughts and feeling are more inmportant than the number on the receipt for the ring! I've never been a fan of diamonds (I mean really, they are a bit bland) but my lovely fiance bought me an antique diamond ring: the thing about it that we fell in love with was the setting, not the stone! We were also happy it wasn't too big, so it won't constantly get snagged, and it didn't cost us 2 months salary we need to pay for the wedding and a house down-payment! Know yourself, know your partner: what suits you both best may be completely different from these advertising campaigns/"traditions"
John
Sat, Nov.22nd 2008
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Oh boy! I'm about to try looking for one also. May God have mercy on me too! Also for the poor girl I love. May she be blessed for tolerating me!
John
Sat, Nov.22nd 2008
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Oh boy! I'm about to try looking for one also. May God have mercy on me too! Also for the poor girl I love. May she be blessed for tolerating me!
Anon
Wed, Nov.19th 2008
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Haha, I'm a student, so my 2 months of salary is like -$1000 ( if you count tuition as salary). How do they like their marketing campaign now.
Rantipole
Sat, Nov.1st 2008
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Yes, the two month thing is suggested primarily by... DeBeers! Who want to sell diamonds! A bit of a conflict of interest there. Of course, you won't find many brides disagreeing with their suggestion. ;-) Still, while technically I suppose I could have afforded two months, I found an amazing ring for around 1 month's salary... it just took a LOT of footwork! That is what is missing from this article: you don't necessarily want to walk into one jewelry store and walk out with a ring. Go to a bunch and check out all the options.
Pat
Mon, Sep.29th 2008
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From the time you give your Wife/Husband "to be" an engagement ring, how long can/should engagement be before marriage?
Kevin
Sun, Sep.28th 2008
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Everyone's situation is different, and the "two months salary" marketing slogan should be viewed as a suggestion. Additionally, I would never consider buying a mined diamond. Man-made diamonds (gemesis, apollo, etc..) are higher quality, and much more unique (available in yellow, pink, blue). If a clear, high quality stone is your preference, moissanite is a great way to go. It's more durable than diamond and more brilliant (fire). Think outside the box! Almost every couple I know has the same generic 1 to 2 carat diamond. There are many more creative options available.
ransdell
Sat, Sep.27th 2008
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maybe i can just fly by with a cubic zirconia lol
Eligius
Wed, Aug.6th 2008
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You should choose the very best engagement ring that will fit your girl's style and your budget. It's important to make knowledgeable decisions about diamond purchasing based on the "4 Cs" (color, clarity, cut and carat weight). However, I don't think guys should get caught up in this. Remember why you're buying the ring in the first place--romance! Choose a ring you know your girl will love and then choose a diamond that fits your budget. You can always upgrade later!
Ryan
Tue, Jul.29th 2008
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2 Months Salary is a little high don't you think. I mean especially if you and your new lady are planning on getting a house and having a nice wedding. I mean down payment on a house is 10 000 minimum and even a small wedding as a moderate location will cost upwards of 10 grand. so all ready you're into this 20 000 and they want you to spend (in my case) 15-20 thousand on a ring. that's a little much.
truth
Tue, Jul.22nd 2008
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It's a shiny rock that a bunch of old white guys have created artificial scarcity and demand for. plus, you can think about all the severed arms that you have just put 2 month's salary into. Stupid
Adam
Mon, Jul.14th 2008
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The 2 months salary is smart. It was created before the idea of credit cards. It may take a year or longer to save that kind of dough. Not only does it give you more time so you dont make a rash decision with the wrong person but also gives you time to learn about jewerly. Guys if I go out and buy a new truck I dont just take the first one with a decent price. Research jewerly, you are a guy and have no idea what your doing. A jeweler is like a car salesman, dont take his word for it
soon to be mrs.
Fri, Jul.11th 2008
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diamonds are expensive guys......i would not go as to say spend ALL your money on your soon to be wife....but just know that it will be something that she will wear (potentially) all your lives together.... and as a girl that loves jewelry its not like you have to buy her a 4000 dollar ring every year.....its once!!! one time... you guys spend that on a flat screen for your sports room and dont even blink an eye!.......and i dont think that it shows how much you love the person.....but it could make your girl really really really happy.....so go on make her friends jealous... put a little more thought into the ring....dont just get the whatever ring.....get the ring that will make her scream!!!!.....there is a big difference.
girl
Fri, May.16th 2008
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So you know...She may say it's "perfect" or "better than putting a strain on our relationship", but let's face it guys: THE BIGGER THE BETTER. No woman would turn down a larger, better quality ring, if given a choice. The fact is that we don't have that choice. It's not like we can say "that's kind of a dinky ring" as you are on one knee and profess your undying love and desire to spend eternity together. So do your ladies a favor and try to think of it as a good kick start to the rest of your life. Remember, you spend more on the multiple cars you'll own in a lifetime...let's hope you'd be willing to spend as much on the ONE woman you'd like to spend the rest of your life with. Learn to appreciate her and not think of the one time price of a ring as a burden. In the end...we all know that she'll pick up after you and feed you and your dumb friends in amounts that far surpass two months salary.
pat
Tue, May.6th 2008
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Seriously....2 months salary is what the diamond companys want you to give them....Think about it before you jump of that cliff like a lemming. Putting a financial strain on your relationship over a ring is not worth it. Love, trust, and a good relationship is much more than a piece of jewelery. If you think that a higher price ring says that you are more committed and more in love....better get yourself a good divorce lawyer
Frank
Fri, Apr.25th 2008
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I was also concern that a two month salary was too much, specially if you take into consideration that the wedding itself could go pricy very fast, sometime by just changing a few things here and there. Flowers, for example its something I am willing to sacrifice if I could use it in something that will last longer, such as the diamond. In all reality the whole thing its about the person who is going to hopefully share the rest of her life with you. You should buy what you can affort, it your marriage is meant to last. You can always upgrade her ring setting, diamond, etc.
Patrick
Tue, Mar.25th 2008
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Think about your future wife. Does she wear jewelry often? Does she want a huge rock? Forget your salary for a minute and think about her. My soon to be wife never wore a ring until now and doesn't wear much jewelry to begin with. According to the 2 months salary rule I was supposed to spend $15,000 on a ring, which seemed insane to me. I was able to buy her a ring that she loves, with near flawless ratings in Cut, Color, and Clarity while sacrificing Carat for under $4,000. It's not the biggest, but it's perfect for her. Think about her long and hard before giving up 2 months income.
Sat, Mar.1st 2008
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Great article! May God have mercy on me as I embark on this process.

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