My fiance has been my bestfriend for 10 years and has wanted to marry me for all 10 of those years. We have been dating 4 years and he proposed 8 months ago. He woke up one day, acting funny and I asked him what was wrong, and he told me that he did not think he could marry me. He said that something does not seem right, and he needs to figure it out. But he does not have any answers to anything that I ask him. Everytime I ask him, why he feels that way, he says he does not know. He went to a counselor once, and I am hoping that we see a couples counselor. He is acting like a completly different person, then the guy that I have known for 10 years.

Your Comments I am 59 engaged to man 62 and we decided to marry 2 months after meeting, spent evey day together. Three days before our wedding ws to take place - a small wedding in my son's home, I came over and walked into the room with family members there and him saying he was not going through with it. I had an asthma attack and had to go to the hospital. I was so stunned that he would not call, or tell me in a setting that would be easier and more respectful to me. He had been given a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis two weeks before and I didn't break it off. I gave in to his wanting us to live in the house he and his deceased wife lived in, even helped him 'stage' the house for sale - he said it is to big for him alone and for us as a couple, and I helped him set his doctor appointments and MRIs. He had to have a foot surgery (minor) because he had neglected his health and feet and teeth. I thought I was doing what he wanted. He is losing his ability to walk, etc. But, I am a mature adult and was not interested in anything but him ... he has money and paid for house ... a prenuptial and separate accounts are fine with me. His sons got worried that if the house sold, and he purchased new home (near them and something they had tried to get him to do) and he was married to me and he died they would not inherit. Sunday before the Wednesday he broke it off, he made a strange comment "I am bringing a lot into the marriage and you are not ... I have guitars that are worth thousands of dollars." I started to break it off then with him ... I don't care about the money.... I am college degreed (he is not) and certified legal mediator, speech therapist, educator, tech writer .... I am currently on disability after an accident and private disability will be almost $3000. He has a pension and soc sec disability - total $5000. His kids kept saying it is too quick. He set the date. We were becoming very emotinal invested and he proposed. His wife died a year ago ... I was hesitant at first to get involved, thinking he was not ready; but, he said he was ready. I don't know what to think - it has been two weeks. I asked him not to call me and now I just want to go over there and ask "what happened?" but, I have not because of the embarrssment factor. For the first day or so, his family was camped out at his house. I don't know how long he can live alone because of his diagnosis. His daughter-in-law said he had 'cold feet' - the one who was not there that day when I walked in. She said he is refusing to take the meds.

Sarah, Your husband doesn't love you. Don't bother with this advice, it won't help you in the end. If he is nervous and pulling back, he's not in love with you, and doesn't want to go through with it. Just accept it and move on. Honest advice from a guy who is going through the same thing.